I was inspired by Jack Grandcolas, his wife was on United flight 93 on 9-11. This was the flight where the passengers got word that the other planes had crashed into the Pentagon and the World Trade Center, and fought back. The plane crashed in Shakesville , PA. His wife Lauren was on that flight. At the time of her death, she was 3 months pregnant with their first child.
Watch the video of his journey of creating a memorial legacy to his wife.
http://news.yahoo.com/pregnant-flight-93-victim-honored-by-husband-s-lasting-tribute.htmlJack, who lost his wife and unborn child in that crash, went into a deep dark depression. Inspired by Laurens love of children, and by the loss of his baby, he and Lauren’s family set up the Lauren Catuzzi Grandcolas Foundation, a philanthropic organization that helps people attain their life goals.
One of the main benefactors is the state of the art birthing center at Marin General Hospital where Lauren would have given birth. The birthing rooms allow the family to stay together during the birthing process. Instead of the baby being rushed out to be weighed and tested, all the equipment is in the birthing room. There is a couch in the room for the father to sleep on.
While not everyone will have the access to the kind of money it takes to create such a foundation, I do believe that one way to move forward after a loss is to focus on what you can do in the person’s memory. In this case, they wanted to share Lauren’s giving, caring spirit and her love of babies, the birthing center was an obvious fit. If you are looking to set up a memorial in your loved one’s name begin by thinking of what legacy they would have liked to leave. What were their passions? How would they have liked their name or spirit carried on? You may want to look at these 10 ideas for carrying on a legacy and creating a memorial after a death.
I wish you the best of luck in your journey.